Imperfect Mommyhood is a resource ran by me, Amber Kristine, to encourage you to embrace the imperfections of being a mom while you strive to break the cycle—but what does it mean to break the cycle?
Who is Amber Kristine?
And why should I listen to her about this stuff?
I'm a crazy, silly, quirky, and weird as fuckkkkk mom of three beautiful babies who is learning how to break the cycle and heal from childhood trauma - because there is no other choice. Like SOOOOO many others my age.... I've learned what NOT to do from first-hand experience of shit I DO NOT want my children to ever experience.
My childhood was traumatic to say the least - I was treated as nothing more than a burden who was sent to my parents as a form of karma. I wasn't taught emotional-stability and I definitely wasn't taught how to survive in the real world. (If anything - I was taught a victim mentality and how to be scared of everything.)
So just imagine how I handled becoming an adult at 18 - not knowing how exactly to "be an adult". Spoiler alert: it didn't go well. In fact, it was only a few years later I had a complete mental breakdown that lasted roughly 6 months.
I didn't know how to behave so I destroyed a significant amount of relationships, friendships, jobs, and so much more. It's a miracle I'm still alive typing this if I'm being perfectly honest.
That could have been the end for me... but instead, it was an important stepping stone in my story.
In the months (and years) following - I managed to rebuild myself. I went through massive growth and found a way to start healing myself so I could eventually care for small humans in the way they deserved to be treated.
I'm still healing, but I know I am breaking the cycle.
How Imperfect Mommyhood Began
A little origin story about a mom on a mission
Through this period in my life, I learned something very important—the future generations depend on us to break the cycle. I need heal myself so I can care for them so they can start to change the narritive existent in society today.
I have started Imperfect Mommyhood to not only help new moms (because informed choices are SOOOO important) but to help their kids, too. My goal here is to show the raw and realness of a mother healing from childhood trauma while in the midst of breaking the cycle with her own choices. Sure, you can follow anyone for parenting help—but the amount of judgement around it is astounding. You won't find that shit here so long as you are trying your best.
Why I do what I do
Hint: it's not about being "right"
As it stands right now.... I don't think we, as a society, are doing enough for our kids. As parents, we are doing everything we can. But as a society, we are not looking out enough for each other.
Throughout the blog you will hear me mention things like informed choices, medical advocacy, and choosing things that keep us healthy - physically, emotionally, spiritually, and more. But if you want to know more about who I am....
Some fun things about me:
- Glitter & unicorn obsessed
- Makeup is my newly found hobby
- Love people of all types - hate the people who judge them
- Horror movie fanatic
- Music is in every inch of my soul
- Beaches are my favorite
- Leggings ARE pants
- Does not put up with shit heads
- Professional at weird sound effects
- Graphic designer, tech nerd, and biz obsessed
- Basically a child
- Pineapple is life
- So are fun colors
- Cultivating happiness into my soul on the daily
- Passionate about our children AND healing ourselves
- Fluent in swearing, sarcasm, + smartass-isms
Imperfect Mommyhood is here to support you, mama.
That's the power of community
My readers will be the reason this movement grows—nobody can do that alone. I've built this site as a resource for those who need it. No matter if you're ahead of me in your journey by decades or just starting like I was.... I hope you'll join the adventure with me.
As you browse my posts, you'll notice each post is designed to start the conversation. I hope you choose to join me in the comments so we can get to know each other. Just click the button below to head over to the blog!